Power To The Chooser
Become gloriously uninfluenceable.
Shamanic mentorship to cultivate internal authority and anchored self-trust
How much of your life ARE actually CHOOSING?
You can be a woman who knows herself well, has done years of inner work and takes full responsibility for her life, and still discover places where old stories & conditioning are making decisions you thought were yours.
An old loyalty. An identity you've outgrown. The need to be understood, approved of, or seen as the good one.
A familiar response in your body that takes over before you've had a chance to choose.
And sometimes it's more subtle than that. You've built a life that works. You know what matters to you. But there's a bigger version of your life asking something of you that your current identity hasn't yet learned how to hold.
This is the territory I work in.
The places where instinct, identity, conditioning and choice meet. Where we get underneath what's running you, and expand your capacity to live from your own authority.
I'm Tamara.
Shamanic practitioner, rites of passage mentor, and a woman who has spent more than three decades exploring what it takes to become fully self-governing.
I've worked with bodies, nervous systems, energetic patterns, identity, ritual, relational dynamics and the many ingenious ways human beings surrender their power.
I have a particular interest in the places where intelligent, self-aware women can explain their patterns beautifully and still find themselves at the mercy of them.
My work is intimate, confronting, deeply experiential and grounded in personal responsibility. I bring a fierce respect for the intelligence of the body, the wisdom of instinct and the transformative power of ritual.
I won't tell you who to be, what to believe or which choices to make.
I'm far more interested in what becomes possible when you stop needing someone else to hold that authority for you.
This is Power To The Chooser.
Women are already powerful.
They don't need me to hand them anything.
I'm a provocateur. I see the patterns, contradictions and unconscious agreements that can keep a woman negotiating with her own power, even after 'doing the work'.
I'll ask the questions that get underneath the story. I'll challenge the places where you've made yourself right, comfortable or innocent at the expense of your freedom.
And I'll hold you to the responsibility that comes with seeing something you can no longer unsee.
I'm interested in women who can be challenged without needing to be rescued, who are willing to examine their part in what they're creating, and who understand that being their own authority means being accountable for their choices.
That's the calibre of work I'm here for.
I teach power because I've lived what it means to have none.
I teach power because I've lived what it means to have none.
I grew up in a religious cult where obedience was rewarded, questioning came at a cost and belonging was conditional.
I left at 18, but it took considerably longer to recognise how much of that conditioning had followed me out the door.
I've spent the decades since getting intimately acquainted with power.
The ways we surrender it, the ways we wield it, the ways we disguise our need for it, and the extraordinary lengths we'll go to avoid taking full responsibility for it.
And I've lived a few lives along the way.
Once upon a time, I built and executed campaigns for one of the world's most aspirational, globally recognised brands.
The same instincts that once read a boardroom and a market now translate the field.
I've spent more than three decades immersed in the study and practice of human behaviour, bodies, energetics, identity, ritual and the unseen dynamics that shape our choices.
My own life has been the laboratory. Illness, reinvention, relationships, spiritual initiation, and more than a few encounters with the limits of who I thought I was.
I know what it's like to have your entire understanding of the world dismantled.
And I know the particular courage it takes to discover that some of the structures still keeping you small are the ones you've built yourself.
I have no interest in being the woman who tells you how to live.
I'm here for the woman who's willing to find out what happens when she becomes the final authority in her own life.
Welcome to the revolution...
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PODCAST GUEST
I love conversations that go somewhere. Have me on your podcast for a conversation about inner authority, energetic mastery, rites of passage, women growing all the way up, toxic shame, truth telling, and what it takes to stay fully home in your body when life asks more of you.
I’m particularly interested in the woman who can tell the truth without needing a villain, hold the consequences of that truth, and resist the urge to collapse afterwards to make everybody else comfortable.
SPEAKER
I speak about the places where personal transformation meets culture, power and the way we live together. Recent topics include What Makes a Woman Dangerous?, inner authority, the energetics of female archetypes, rites of passage, self abandonment, mature power, and what becomes possible when a woman no longer needs permission to trust what she knows.
My talks are designed to provoke recognition, open conversation and leave people thinking about themselves differently.
TEACHER
Bring me into your retreat to facilitate an experience that takes the work out of the head and into the body. I offer teaching, ritual and experiential processes around energetic mastery, somatic awareness, boundaries and consent, truth telling, rites of passage, archetypal work, self authority and threshold moments.
Sessions can be created specifically for the intention of your retreat, from a focused workshop or ritual through to a deeper half day experience.
What’s the hidden pattern running your operating system?
Stop looping in old stories. Name the unconscious strategy that protects you... and what it costs you.
This is not your average quiz.
It’s a call to radical self-recognition.
Ready for the truth?